The STARS Mentoring Program in AZ has some excellent resources for caregivers here.
There's also a manual for caregivers of children with incarcerated parents:
"Mother's prison"
ASPC-Perryville; Goodyear, AZ
November 2011
Keeping Kids Connected With Their Jailed Parents
North Country Public Radio
Jul 18, 2012 (Morning Edition / Arizona Public Radio)
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With one of the highest incarceration rates in the country, Arizona
also has one of the highest percentages of children with a parent in
prison. In rural Coconino County, 1 of every 28 minors has an
incarcerated parent, and that county is helping families stay in touch
without bringing kids inside prison walls.
Arizona has one of the highest
incarceration rates in the country, and that means it also has one of
the highest percentages of children with one or both parents in jail.
One rural county there is trying to help families stay connected.
On
a recent day, 45-year-old Liz Minor sits in the shade outside a
coffeehouse in Flagstaff, enjoying icy drinks with her two sons. She
relishes this ordinary moment, considering that just a few years ago,
their time together was limited to a prison visiting room, separated by
shatterproof glass.
"I wore lipstick because it leaves marks,"
Minor says. "So when your kids are there and they're telling you it's
over ... you see windows just marked up with lips because you want to
kiss your babies goodbye and you can't."
Minor's youngest son,
A.J., was only 7 years old when his mom began serving a sentence for
manslaughter. Now 18, A.J. recalls a very different memory of visits
with his mom.
"They always used to make us ... take off our shoes
and open up shirts and stuff," A.J. says. "They would pat us down, and
our pockets had to be turned out."
During his mom's absence, A.J.
was raised by several family members because his father was also in
prison, serving a life sentence. It was tough for A.J.
"I did have
a lot of suicidal tendencies," he says. "It really sucked to have to go
through that when you're 8, 9, 10 years old, and you're thinking about
going into your room and killing yourself. It's not a cool deal at all."
Instead
of taking his life, however, A.J. took action. At 15, he joined a
fledgling task force in Coconino County, Ariz. The group's goal was to
keep kids connected with their parents in prison. That's where he met
Beth Tucker, one of the group's organizers.
"Our population of
children and families is different than the state as a whole in that we
have such great distances for our rural areas," Tucker says. "They're
traveling hundreds and hundreds of miles to visit a parent."
Tucker
says 1 of every 28 children in Coconino County has a parent in prison.
Some kids, like A.J., experience the trauma of being present during
their parent's arrest. Others, Tucker says, can end up on the street,
fearful they'll land in foster care or in the custody of Child
Protective Services.
"We know that oftentimes when a parent is
arrested, they will not reveal that they have children," she says.
"They're afraid they're going to lose that child."
That's why law
enforcement officers are now being trained to look for signs of children
at the time of a person's arrest: toys, car seats and backpacks, for
instance. Another major step is that the county is installing a
Skype-like video visitation system. Lt. Matt Figueroa with the Coconino
County Sheriff's Office is helping set it up.
"They can do it from
a coffeehouse, they can do it from their iPhone or iPad," Figueroa
says. "People throw out the word Skype, but it's basically a secure
video connection to conduct that visit."
Figueroa says it will
also cut down on the trauma that many children experience having to go
inside prison to visit a parent. That's heartening to kids like A.J.
Minor, who says he would've liked something like this when his mom was
in prison.
"A visit like that would actually keep a kid from
running away, because they know that they can have a visit with their
parent every couple of days. It's so much more nourishing," he says. "So
for someone who's going through it right now, just hang on. You will be
able to see them."
A.J. himself is trying to hang on, when it comes to seeing his own father. They haven't met face to face in 16 years.
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